Fujoshi Asks for Advice: Should She Hide Her Love for Yaoi from Her Boyfriend or Reveal It?
A rather peculiar topic took over Japanese social media when women who are fans of Yaoi began discussing a dilemma: should they hide BL manga at home or fully embrace this personal taste when starting a life together? The conversation sparked honest debates about trust, living together, and even marriage.
Fujoshi Asks for Advice: Should She Hide Her Love for Yaoi from Her Boyfriend or Reveal It?
When a fujoshi starts living with her boyfriend, the question of how to deal with her Yaoi manga collection naturally comes up. In Japan, a user on X commented that she doesn’t like reading digital books and keeps almost her entire collection in physical format, which makes it nearly impossible to hide everything in a shared living space.
She said she wouldn’t want her partner to see her BL manga, but also admitted that hiding this hobby becomes increasingly difficult as the relationship progresses. Her question ended up going viral and attracted thousands of responses from other fujoshis.
Hide BL manga or tell the truth to your partner?
Reactions clearly split into two groups. On one side were those who defend hiding BL manga using creative strategies. On the other were those who believe that being open about the hobby is essential for a healthy relationship, especially when talking about living together and a shared future.
Some fujoshis said they prefer not to hide anything. They explained that they leave their BL manga out in the open, explain the content to their partner, and treat the subject naturally. According to them, if a boyfriend can’t accept this interest, the relationship is unlikely to work in the long run.
Others said they give their partner a warning in advance that they own adult books, without going into details. This way, they avoid awkward situations without having to completely hide their collection.
Curious stories about living together
Among the most talked-about comments, some women shared humorous experiences. There were stories of husbands who started reading BL out loud as a joke, including more explicit passages, just to get laughs or grab their partner’s attention.
There were also stories of fujoshis who switched almost entirely to ebooks before moving in together, scanning their old manga and getting rid of the physical copies. Even so, some admitted they still keep a few volumes hidden behind regular manga.
On the other hand, some women confessed they don’t have the courage to invite their boyfriend into their rooms filled with otaku items, even after more than a year of dating, out of fear of revealing this side of their personality.
For many participants in the discussion, the consensus is that hiding BL manga may work in the short term, but it doesn’t solve the problem in the long run. Especially when a relationship moves toward marriage, transparency is seen as inevitable.
These fujoshis argue that constantly hiding something so personal creates unnecessary stress. For them, accepting and being accepted is part of a healthy relationship, even if the partner doesn’t share the same interest.