Japanese Lesbian Explains the “Real Yuri World” and Says It’s Nothing Like Cute Anime
Apparently, the biggest consumers of yuri works — whether manga or anime — are men. Seeing this, a Japanese lesbian woman decided to go on Twitter and explain what the “real lesbian world” is like to the men who read yuri stories and think everything is cute and wholesome.
If you read yuri manga or watch yuri anime, you’ll often see girls falling in love in a sweet and romantic way. Yes, there’s usually a villain trying to get in the way of the main couple, but in the end, they always stay together.
But what is it like in real life? Here’s what the woman said:
“‘A relationship between girls seems so fun.’ Let me tell heterosexuals the harsh reality. In the lesbian world there’s a lot of cheating, domestic violence, emotional abuse, and stalking. There are also many people who just want to fool around, and even despicable lesbians who hide the fact that they already have a girlfriend or partner and toy with other girls’ feelings. It’s not only men who exploit women. If you take those pure yuri stories on social media too seriously, you’ll end up disappointed.”
I think she’s probably speaking from experience — she must have gone through some complicated situations. Another person then shared something they had heard from other lesbians about dating sites aimed exclusively at them.
According to that comment, on lesbian dating sites, some women approach others in the exact same way creepy older men do — being overly invasive and even harassing.
Wow. In the end, it seems that men and women may act very similarly when placed in the same role. Let’s take a look at some of the reactions:
“If it’s in manga, even a cute girl doing gross harassment might have an audience. But in real life? No way.”
“When a girl who has a boyfriend hangs out alone with another man, it looks bad. But when a girl who has a girlfriend hangs out alone with another girl, people outside the relationship don’t see it as wrong.”
“This happens among men too.”
“2D yuri is fantasy.”
“It’s like comparing male-female romance in fiction (like galge or otome games) with real-life relationships — they look similar, but they’re not.”
“Comparing 2D and 3D, regardless of genre, is pointless.”
“Relationships are full of clashing human egos, so of course. Yuri and BL in fiction are fantasy. Saying ‘it’s not like real life’ is kind of unnecessary. In the end, only people with no romantic experience take fiction literally, right?”
“They say they like women but cheat with men 🎶 In the end, men and women are equally trash 🎶”
“There was that story about a straight woman who tried a lesbian adult service, liked it a lot, and afterward started looking at beautiful women on the street in a sexual way. When someone awakens the desire to ‘have a woman,’ do they end up like that regardless of gender?”
“The other day I found a lesbian forum — they were constantly organizing offline meetups… it was kind of scary.”
“In real-life lesbian couples, one side often gets pushed into the ‘male role,’ so it’s fundamentally different from fictional yuri.”
“People who like yuri just want fantasy.”